The fit of a collar adds to or mars a person’s appearance greatly. It should turn down and both ends nearly meet at the buttonhole. A small brown or black tie, with the ends tucked under the collar, or a plain, narrow silk tie, or one of small white and black checks, will be neat and becoming. A large neck-tie of a flaming color, so often worn bycountry youths, is a prominent sign of an uncultivated taste.
The Hair, etc.—City men, young and old, are very particular about having their hair kept neatly and closely cut. Why those in the country seem to delight in shocks of long hair we never could see; and we lived in the country twenty years. Don’t do it. Cultivate personal neatness insiduously, and give an indication of it by keeping your hair neatly trimmed. Don’t let neighbor Smith do it with his sheep shears, thereby saving a shilling or two; but go to a professional barber, even if he is in the next town.
The Teethrequire particular attention. Use a tooth-pick always after eating, rinsing the mouth at the same time. Scrub the teeth thoroughly morning and night with a tooth-brush rubbed on a bit of soap. There is no excuse for not doing this; a good brush will cost twenty cents, and the time occupied about six minutes a day! The feeling of purity and comfort experienced will amply recompense you for the trifling trouble. Take a hot bath as often as you can, using soap and brush freely;and be certain that no disagreeable fœtid odor comes from your feet from want of cleanliness.
That you would go into the presence of ladies with soiled hands is not probable, but be careful to notice that the nails are scrupulously clean.
These various little attentions towards personal neatness and comeliness will soon become a second nature. And after you have instituted these reforms in regard to your toilet, etc., you will not fail to observe that you are treated with a much greater respect and consideration, especially by the ladies, than before. Your own estimation of yourself has greatly increased, and you find that the miserable bashful feeling formerly experienced when in the society of those you considered your superiors, no longer troubles you.
It is important for those young men who are apt to disparage themselves in comparison with their wealthy acquaintances, to bear in mind that riches and rank have no necessary connection with genuine gentlemanly qualities. The poor man may be a true gentleman in spirit and in daily life. He may be honest, truthful, polite, temperate, courageous, self-respecting, and self-helping—that is,a truegentleman. The poor man with a rich spirit, is always superior to the rich man with a mean spirit.
A person who has any noticeable physical deformity, or who has been reduced by certain nervous diseases, cannot be expected to possess that buoyancy and manliness of spirit that he would were circumstances different. Persons with nerves that are naturally excitable, will greatly increase their excitability by the habitual use of strong tea, etc. As a result, they are nervous, fidgetty, and never quite at ease. When in company they easily lose their self-possession and do blundering things generally. There are certain habits known to young men that cause a person to become bashful and sheep-faced to a surprising degree.
We have no particular suggestions to offer where diffidence and bashfulness are the result of prolonged illness or disease. Every means should be taken to restore the health; and with the restoration will come the old manly and courageous spirit.
When the nerves are weak and unsteady from physical debility, great benefit will be immediatelyderived, in the majority of cases, from the use, for two or three weeks at a time, ofIodoform, two or three grains a day—taken at meal time on a bit of moist bread.
In case the voice and lungs are weak, read aloud daily, enunciating every word clearly and distinctly. Commence by reading ten minutes at a time, and finally half an hour. You will soon acquire a richness and depth of tone to be proud of, besides greatly improving your health by increasing the capacity of the lungs.
—And these few precepts in thy memoryHold fast: “Give thy thoughts no tongue,Nor any unproportion’d thought his act.Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgarTo the friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,Grapple them to thy soul with hooks of steel:Beware of entrance to a quarrel; but, being in, bearIt, that the opposer may beware of thee.Give every man thine ear, but few thy voice;Neither a borrower, nor a lender be,For loan oft loses both itself and friend.This above all:—To thine own self be true;And it must follow, as the night the day,Thou can’st not be false to any man.”
—And these few precepts in thy memoryHold fast: “Give thy thoughts no tongue,Nor any unproportion’d thought his act.Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgarTo the friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,Grapple them to thy soul with hooks of steel:Beware of entrance to a quarrel; but, being in, bearIt, that the opposer may beware of thee.Give every man thine ear, but few thy voice;Neither a borrower, nor a lender be,For loan oft loses both itself and friend.This above all:—To thine own self be true;And it must follow, as the night the day,Thou can’st not be false to any man.”
—And these few precepts in thy memoryHold fast: “Give thy thoughts no tongue,Nor any unproportion’d thought his act.
Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgarTo the friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,Grapple them to thy soul with hooks of steel:Beware of entrance to a quarrel; but, being in, bearIt, that the opposer may beware of thee.
Give every man thine ear, but few thy voice;Neither a borrower, nor a lender be,For loan oft loses both itself and friend.
This above all:—To thine own self be true;And it must follow, as the night the day,Thou can’st not be false to any man.”
Secresyis a characteristic of good breeding. A gentleman or lady will never tell in one company what they see or hear in another; much less divert the present company at the expense of the last. In conversation there is generally a tacit reliance that what is said will not be repeated. Tattlers are contemptable.
Whisperingin company is an act of unmistakable ill-breeding. It seems to imply that neither the persons whom we do not wish should hear are unworthy our confidence, or that we are speaking improperly of them.
Incessanttalkers are very disagreeable companions. Nothing can be more rude than to engross the conversation to yourself, or to take the words, as it were, out of another person’s mouth. All generally like to bear their part in a conversation, and for one to monopolize it, is a tacit acknowledgment that he considers his conversation of moreimportance, or more interesting than that of others. Long talkers are unmitigated bores.
Givingadvice unasked is an impertinence. It is, in effect, declaring ourselves wiser than those to whom we give it; reproaching them with ignorance and inexperience. It is a freedom that ought not to be taken with any common acquaintance.
Itis true politeness not to interrupt a person in a story, whether you have heard it before or not.
Menrepent speaking ten times, for once they repent keeping silence.
Youwill be reckoned by the world nearly of the same character with those whose company you keep.
Ifyou give yourself a loose tongue in company, you may almost depend on being pulled to pieces as soon as your back is turned, however they may seem entertained with your conversation.
Itis ill manners to trouble people with talking too much either of yourself or your affairs. If you are full of yourself, consider that you, and your affairs, are not so interesting to other people as to you.
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