It would hardly seem necessary to be said, and yet many experiences of husbands and wives prove that it needs to be said, that both parties should take great pains to keep their bodies, all parts of them, always sweet and clean. Strange as it may seem, many wives are exceedingly careless in this respect! It is a matter of common report among men, that harlots take more pains to make and keep their bodies, and especially their genitals, clean and attractive, than many wives do! Surely, this ought not to be so, and yet it often is.
And that it is, is only one more unfortunate result that springs from the feeling of "Oh, we are married now." The wife or the husband feels that there is no longer any need of wooing each other. All of which leads to woe, woe, woe! The wife should keep her whole body so sweet and clean that her husband can kiss her from top to toe, if he wants to—and the chances are that he will want to, if she so keeps herself! In the one case, such a caress is a bit ofheaven to a husband, in the other it is a bit of hell! It will disgust where it ought to delight. And when a wife disgusts her husband, the end of a happy married life has come!
The wife should always wash her vulva with soap and warm water before retiring, and if reservatus is to be engaged in in the morning, after urination, she should thoroughly cleanse the parts before union takes place. Let her beevermindful to keep her "love cup" worthy to meet its lover.
And the husband should be equally careful to keep his body sweet and clean. He should wash the glans penis thoroughly, with soap and water, at least once every day, drawing the foreskin back so as to fully cleanse the indenture above the gland, which secretes a substance that very soon emits an offensive odor unless removed. Both parties should keep their arm pits so that they will not be "smelly," and the feet should likewise be kept inodorous.
One of the chief objections to smoking or chewing tobacco is that it spoils the breath, and so makes it offensive to the wife, whereas it should be most attractive. In a word, both the husband and wife cannot be too careful, in all ways, in making and keeping their bodies mutually attractive. As has already been said, the sole aim of all the sexual experience of a husband and wife should be to raise the function more and moreawayfrom the plane ofphysicalgratification and elevate it continually towards the realm ofmentalandspiritual delight. This is a mission of sex in the human family that should be made the most of. It involves the cultivation of the Art of Love, which is truly the art of arts, par excellence.
The secret of success in establishing righteous and happy sex relations between husband and wife is, on the part of the man, thatall his actions should be those of a loving gentleman. This does not mean effeminacy on his part—he must be virile, bold, strong, aggressive, positive,compelling. And yet, all these manly virtues must be expressed in terms ofloving and gentleACTS. This is a paradox, but it is true!
On the part of the woman, the chief item on her side is, for her to attain acorrect mental and spiritual attitude toward her own sex-nature and that of her husband, and toward their common expression. All her training and environment now hinder her from such achievement; but if she be a true woman, her nature will reveal the truth to her, and if she will trust to that—do what that prompts her to do, she will come out all right. It will take time to reach such results; but if she will persist, she will succeed. Let her come to the realization of the fact that sex in men and women isnotunclean, vulgar, lowdown, sinful; but that it isclean, pure, lofty, GOD-BORN! Rightly exercised, it leads to the highest well-being of both the husband and wife; it brings them to their physical, mental and spiritual noblest andbest. Let the wife get this view of the situation, which is the only true view, and then let her act accordingly, and she will have attained. A husband and wife who have reached thismodus vivendihave established a heaven on earth.
Dr. Long's description of "Free Time" should be thoroughly understood by the readers of this book. Since it is practically impossible to conduct exact scientific tests under strict control (the reason for which can be readily understood) there is much difference of opinion among physicians and sexologists on this subject.
Some say there is no such thing as "Free Time." Others agree with Dr. Long that there is a period of "Free Time." Still a third group take the conservative viewpoint that further proof is necessary. The publishers offer this explanation as a necessary comment.
And now just a few words about having children, and this treatise will end.
As has already been said, every true husband and wife who are well enough and strong enough, and who are reasonably furnished with this world's goods, ought to have and rear at least two children. The world needs at least so many, even if all children lived and grew up, to keep up the constant number of people on the earth. But, far more than this, the husband and wife need childrento make a home complete, and a complete home is the supreme attainment of human life!
This does not mean that people should not marry unless they can have children; there are many women who should never even try to become mothers. But these should not be deprived of all sexual joys for this reason. On the contrary, it is for their best good, in most cases, that they should marry and so live normal sex lives, in all respects except parenthood.
But, for the most part, husbands and wivescanhave children, if they so desire,and theySHOULDso desire.
And, so desiring, the question is, How can theybest fulfil such desire?
As a matter of fact, there is very little that is really known about the begetting of children, and the securing of the best results from such action. The laws of human heredity are, as yet, for the most part, unknown. But common sense would seem to indicate a few things that must be best in the premises.
Thus, it would seem to be for the best that the husband and wife should be in good physical condition when a child is begotten. More than this, it would seem right that the act of begetting should be adeliberate, and not a merechancebegetting. Hence, in general, it is well for the husband and wife toagreeupon a time for the begetting of a child, anddeliberately accomplish a sex-meeting for such purpose. Although, one instinctively feels that such a deliberate meeting might be too matter of fact—too cold and formal, lacking in warm blood and genuine emotion; still, the probabilities are that even this could be overcome, if kept in mind and "provided for."
Referring to the things that have already been said, of course an embrace which is to result in pregnancy should be one of the most perfect that can possibly be experienced, one in which, in an ecstasy of love's delight, husband and wife merge their souls and bodies into a perfect oneness—it would seem that from such a meeting the best, and only the best results could come.
And so if the husband and wife will agree thatfrom a given time on, they will cease to have a care to prevent conception; and then, sometimeimmediately following the fifth day after the beginning of the menstrual flow, they will naturally meet in aperfect embrace, the probabilities are that they will have done the best possible to secure the highest attainable results from the act of begetting a child.
As a rule, the proper time for such begetting is between thefifthand thetenthday after the beginning of the menstrual flow. It is sometimes best, however, to make the meeting earlier than this, even before the flow has ceased. Some women will conceive then who cannot do so at any other time. And so, if a wife should be unable to conceive between the fifth and the tenth day, as noted, let an earlier date be tried. If this should fail, consult a reliable physician.
It ought to be said, too, that putting off having childrentoo long, is very apt to result in the sterility of the wife. Many a young wife, who has really wanted to have childrensometime, and who would be greatly grieved if she thought she couldnotbear a child, has kept putting it off, and has done thisso often, and forso long, that, when the "convenient day" does come, she finds that she has "sinned away her day of grace."
Speaking generally, the first baby should be born not much later than two years after marriage. There are, of course, exceptions to this, but it is a good rule to go by.
Have your children when you are young! Thisis common sense, it comes out best in the long run, and is the best thing to do, ninety-nine times in a hundred. Then, you are nearer the age of your children as they grow up than if you waited till you were in the late thirties before the children came. If your son or daughter is only twenty-some years younger than you are, you can be "kids" with them. If you are forty years old when they are born, you will always be "old folks" to them. Have the babies when you are young. It is far better so.
If no children come from the meeting of husband and wife consult a good doctor. But, in such event, if neither of the parties is to blame—or even otherwise, make the best of the situation, love each other, and make the most of wedded life with what is left.
Above all, with children or without (and a thousand times better with) make a home that is a home. That is what sex in the human family, what married life is for—to make a home. Nearly all that makes a home is centered around sex. No two normalmencan make a home! No two normalwomencan make a home!It takes a man and a woman to make a home. It takes father, mother and children to make the most perfect home. Make up your minds to have a most perfect home, and do your utmost to reach that goal!
The query often arises in the minds of conscientious husbands and wives whether or not it is right to engage in coitus during pregnancy. On this point authorities differ, though most of them hold against such practice. The reasons they give forsuch adverse decision are all based on the same old infernal lie, namely, that, sexually, man is a mere animal, and so is subject to the laws and practices of mere animality. This is the worst outrage ever perfected by a false philosophy, which is heralded as the will of God. Out on it, altogether!
The simple truth, is that, if the husband and wife havemastered the Art of Love, so that theymutually desire each other, and both long for sex exercise during the gestation period, it isperfectly rightand WISE for them to satisfy theirnaturalCOMMON wishes.
Of course, in such exercise, the utmost care should be taken not to press too hard upon the pelvic region of the woman, and in this regard, the word of caution needs to be heeded, as much by the prospective mother as by her mate. For, in the intensity of an orgasm, she may be tempted to crowd her body too violently against her husband, and so possible harm might result. Especially if the husband-superior position is taken during the act, he should be doubly careful not to permit the weight of his body to rest upon the enlarged part of the wife's anatomy, not in the least.
Indeed, the safest position for coitus, during pregnancy is, the woman on her back, and the man with his hips on the bed below hers, so that there is no possibility of pressure on her abdomen, which is perfectly free, in this position. In this position, the act may be engaged in, during pregnancy, as often as mutually desired, to the benefit of both parties.
Many pregnant women are more than usually passionate during the period of gestation. This is especially the case when the wife is happy in her condition, when she rejoices with exceeding great joy that she is on the way to experience the divine crown of wifehood—maternity! When such a woman desires her husband in love's embrace, it is cruel to deprive her of her longed-for delight.
Again, a wife, unpregnant, and when she rightfully wishes to remain so, may be somewhat fearful of becoming pregnant when she meets her husband, and so hesitate to give her passion full play, thereby missing the utmost delights of an embrace—but if she be pregnant, and so has no fear on this score, she can give herself up to utter abandonment to her impulses.
On this point, the final word is, usecommon sense, in aspirit of absoluteMUTUALITY.
It goes without saying that it would be wicked, not to say a crime, for a husband tocompelhis wife to engage in coitus during pregnancy, against her will. On the other hand, many a wife has first experienced an orgasm when meeting her husband during pregnancy. The reason for this is that her fear of becoming pregnant is not then present—a condition which has before kept her from the climax.
It is further true that many a wife will greatly relieve and delight her husband if, on occasion, and as both may desire, she will relieve him with her hand; or sometimes, that they engage in mutual relief by this means during pregnancy.
In closing this volume, the author wishes to say, as in opening, that no apology is offered for what has been written or said herewith. All has been set down in love, by a lover, for the sake of lovers yet to be,in the hope of helping them on towards a divine consummation.
As a final directionMaster the Art of Love, which isthe divinest art in all the world; then study, and do your best to master the Science of Procreation. It is these two, the Art of Love and the Science of Procreation, that, together, make married life a success. Without these, or, surely, without the first, there can be no such thing as true marriage. Hence, this is thefirstto learn, to master. It is worthy of the most careful study, the most faithful experiment.
It is right for people who never can have children to marry, and to share with each other mutual sex delights. It is far better for a husband and wife, having learned the Art of Love, to have children—and a home.
Thrice happy are the married lovers who live in the spirit of this sentiment, exalted to the highest spiritual plane; and if, out of such love exchanges children are begotten and born, and a perfect homeis established, then married life is worth living. God has joined such together and nothing can put them asunder.
This volume is not something to be read once, and then put aside and forgotten. It should be studied, experimented upon, read again and again, especially by those who have difficulties in married life to overcome. And forallyoung married people, it should be a sort of Guide to Happiness that should be frequently consulted and its directions "tried out" and followed to the limit.
The fact is that, in true marriage, neither the husband nor the wife can be selfishly supreme. If selfishness asserts itself, on the part of either husband or wife, hell is sure to follow. There can be no true marriage under such circumstances, because there is no supremacy in true love, and it is only true love that can make an abiding true marriage. In true marriage, such as both God and Nature design should be, there is perfect comradery, equals walking with equals, with the principle of love and mutual helpfulness shared alike by both. Let no reader of this book forget these primal facts, or fail to act in accordance with them! For of such is the Kingdom of Heaven!
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Reasons why a misstep in a girl is more serious than in a boy
Sex knowledge of paramount importance to girls and women
The wife's attitude toward the marital relations
The female sex organs
The sex instinct
How to keep a husband's love
Who may and may not marry
Advice to girls approaching womanhood
Illegitimate motherhood
Advice to parents of unfortunate girls
What is love?
Late marriages and chastity in men
Harmful advice to young women
Birth control
Regarding flirtation
What a girl has a right to demand of her future husband
Advice to the married or those about to be
Importance of first few weeks of married life
Infatuation mistaken for love
Woman as man's chattel
Advice to the wife of the flirtatious man
The place love occupies in woman's life
Abortion and miscarriage
Three venereal diseases
Measures for prevention after sexual relations
Marital relations and frigid woman
The girl who lost her virginity
Treatment of sterility
Justifiable innocent deception
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Misalliances and unhappy marriages: an important but never referred to cause
Sexual abstinence and nervousness
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Sexual hypochondria and morbid scrupulousness
Double standard of morality
Continence in the two sexes
Is it really impossible to make prostitution harmless?
A problem in sexual ethics
Eugenics, sexual sin, ignorance, and superstition
Is Platonic love normal?
Female sex instinct in relation to morality
Regulation of offspring and sexual morality
Coitus and nightmares
Distinctions between male and female sex instinct
Death during sexual intercourse
False accusation of rape
Strikes against marriage in ancient times
Remarkable experiment in venereal prophylaxis
Effects of masturbation; a genuine human document
A remarkable letter by Benjamin Franklin
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Love and civilization
Sex worship
Male internal sex organs
Female internal sex organs
Male external genitals
Female external genitals
Function of testicles, spermatogenesis, function of seminal vesicles, prostate, urethral glands, semen, erection, ejaculation, nervous control, organism
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Love and passion, development of individual love, characteristic of the ideal woman's love
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Sexual desires in the old, in infants, causes of early masturbation
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History of marriage, promiscuity, consanguineous family, female chastity, adultery, female morality and reason
Prostitution, clandestine vice, injury of abstinence, ethics of evolution
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