Abbreviations,99,113,115Absent-mindedness,125Acceptances,112Accidents at table,154Accounts for children,219,220Acknowledgment of wedding gifts,211Addresses on cards,100;on envelopes,60-66,118;on invitations,114,118Addressing:The President of the United States,62,63;Vice President,63;Members of the Cabinet,64;Ambassadors,63,64;Governors,63;Mayors,63;The King of England,64;Dukes,65;The Pope,65;Bishops and Archbishops,65,66;strangers,66,67;married women,67Addressing wedding invitations,118After-dinner speeches,166Afternoon tea,145Afternoon teas for the engaged girl,180Allowances for children,219,220Amusement, places of,122-124,170Anger,8Anniversaries,40Announcement of engagement,179-181;by newspaper notice,179;by personal note,74Announcements: engagement,74,179-181;birth,104,105;death,224,225;marriage,116;postponements,119,120Answering Letters,76Apology,29,31Appearance, personal,6,10Applauding,124Art of Being a Guest, The,137-144"At Home" days,145,146"At Home" invitations of bridal couple,116,117Attitude toward strangers,132,133,135Balls,112"Bal Poudre" invitations,112Beauty,10,15Begging pardon,29,82,130Behavior in church,124,125;public,122-136Best man, duties of,8,196-199,201,205,208Birth announcements,104,105Birthday anniversaries,41Blank invitation, the,109,110Bow, the, manner of,78,79;significance of,80-82Breakfasts,148,149;dress at,12,36;menu of,148;wedding,204-207Bridal party:at rehearsal,191;at "showers" and dinners,181-183;at church,192Bridal procession, formation of,196,202,203;at a church wedding,197,199;at a home wedding,202Bridal "Showers," 181-183Bridal veil,190Bridegroom's duties at ceremony,196-199;preparation of a home,185;share of expense of wedding,186;wedding outfit,186,187Bridesmaid, duties of a,8,196-200Business acquaintances,129Business cards,100Business, etiquette of,83,129Business introductions by correspondence,70Business letters,54,55,60Business meetings,123Business training of a wife,23Business women, social life of,171,172Cake:wedding,206;bridal,207Calling upon one person,93;a guest,93Calls:after entertainment,90,138;by men,92;first,94,95;formal,90;friendly,90,93;obligations of,91,138;upon brides,94;clergymen,94;government officials in Washington,94;newcomers,94;people of note,94;return of,90,95;time of,90Candles, use of,151Card, The Personal,96-105;form of,96,105;form of name on,97,98;inscription of,97-100;titles on,97,100,101;use of,102-105;after change of residence,103;announcing a birth,104,105;announcing a departure,104;leaving,90,91,103;of sympathy,104;of congratulation,104;presenting at calls,91,95,102;when visiting or traveling,103,131Cards, Place,152Carriages for wedding,193,196;for funeral,226Casual Meetings,78-90Chaperon, Duties of the,169-173;necessity of,169;in public,169,170;at calls,170,172;with the engaged couple,173;for the débutante,172;relations with one's,172,173;at a dancing party,139,147Character,7Children, Etiquette for,214-223;and mourning,222;and servants,214,223;and visitors,221,222;at the dining table,217;in church,220Church, attendance,143;behavior in,124,125;of children,220Church weddings, public,194,213;private,213;invitations,114-119Cleanliness,14Club dinners or receptions,165,166Club invitations,111Club officers,165Conclusions of letters,66,70Coffee, service of,154Condolence, letters of,75,76;acknowledgment,76,120Congratulations,76Conformity to custom,203Congresses, guests at,167Consideration on the part of a guest,141-143Convalescence,45Conversation,16,48-52;at table,35,46Correspondence,52-55Correspondence cards,56Country, entertainment in the,161-164;parties,144,164Country wedding,117,212,213Courses at formal dinner,157,158Courtesy,2,3,4,5,18,19,20;to servants,45,46,47,144;to nurse and doctor,45;to invalids,44Cutlery, arrangement of,152Dancing Parties,138,139,140;invitations,109-111Daylight, use of,149Deaf persons,32Debate,50,51Débutante and the chaperon,169,172Decorations for wedding,192Deference to elders,214Dessert, service of,154,158Dinners,149-158;announcement of,155;choice of guests,150;conversation at,49,150;formal,137,149;invitations to,109,150;lighting of,151;menu of,157,158;place cards for,152;retiring from,156;seating guests at,151,155,156;service of,152,153;table-setting for,151,152Discipline,46,47Dress,11,36,112,128,134,140,186-190Dress for men:afternoon,13,94;early breakfast,13;formal breakfast,13;evening,14,156;at weddings,14,186Dress for women:at home,16;ball,13;church,12,189;dinner,12,13,150,155,189;formal breakfast,12;house party,140;luncheon,12;mourning,13;traveling,130,141;visiting,140;wedding,187-189;as business woman,15;as hostess,13;as housewife,16;as milliner,15Driving,127,128Duties of Host and Hostess,145-168Emerson,ivEngaged couple, the:at a dancing party,139;at home,177;duties to friends,178;in society,177-179;meeting each other's friends,178,179Engagement announcements,179-181Engagement, The Broken,183-185;announcement of,183,184;explanation of,184Engagements:punctuality,17,32;punctiliousness in keeping,17English customs of entertainment,158,159Engraved Invitation, The,105-121;stock of,105,106;type of,106,107,108;size of,105,106Entering a room,27Entertainment, assisting in,123,124;English customs of,159;for guests,142,162;in the country,163Entertainment committees, duties of,166Envelopes,118;addressing,59,60,61,114,118;sealing,59;stamping,59Ethics,1Etiquette, an art,2;the end of,iii;the need of,iii,2;The Rewards of,1-5Etiquette of Mourning,224-230Etiquette of the Marriage Engagement, The,174-193Family Etiquette,20-47Faults among women,18Fees,144Festivities, rural,164Finger bowls,37First Calls,94,95Five o'clock tea,145Forms of wedding invitations,114,115;announcements,115,116;reception cards,116,117;bridal "At Home" cards,116,117;personal cards,96-105;dinner invitations,109;reception,117; "At Home," 116,117,120;party,109;New Year,121Forms of announcements of postponement,119,120;gratitude for sympathy,120Friends,21,42-44General Rules of Conduct,26-33Gifts,40,41,42;engagement,181,185;for "showers," 181-183;of bridegroom to bride,186;of bridegroom to ushers and bridesmaids,186;to servants,144;wedding,210-213Giving away the bride,198Gloves,149,151Golden Rule,2Good-night formalities,28;at a reception,138;dancing party,140;dinner,156Graduations,167,168Greeting guests at a luncheon,149;dinner,156;reception,147Greetings,28,78-83Guest chamber,160,161Guest, the art of being a,137-144,167Guest:at afternoon tea,137,138;a congress, etc.,166,167;country house,159;dancing party,138;reception,138;wedding,195,196,201Guests, tardiness of,155Handshaking,80,82,86,87Handwriting,58Haughtiness,11Home, founding the,20-26Home wedding, the,201-203;invitations,115Horseback riding,128,129Hospitality,145,165-168Hotel etiquette,126,127,133-136;dining-room civility,135-136;dress in,134House parties,158,159;sports at,163Household management,22Host, duties of,137,166-168Hostess, duties of,127,137Illness,44,